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Crime aficionado Pauley Perrette found the perfect fit for her when she was cast hit procedural drama, NCIS. Signing on as Abby Sciuto — an eccentric and exceptionally talented forensic scientist — the former actress’ off-beat performance cemented her status as a TV icon.

Known and loved for her 15 seasons on the show, the 57-year-old has continued to march to the beat of her own drum, following her sudden departure from NCIS in 2018. And, after swapping acting for activism, she continues to use her star power to support causes close to her heart.

From her early ambitions as an FBI agent to her big break in NCIS, subsequent, alleged feud with Mark Harmon and eventual retirement from acting, here’s what you need to know about her.

Early life

Born in New Orleans on March 27, 1969, Pauley was raised throughout the Southern United States, living in Georgia, Alabama, Tennessee, and South Carolina, among others.

Speaking to PEOPLE Magazine in May 2018, the NCIS alum revealed that she’d been “completely obsessed” with crime stories as a kid, and “would cut out every article,” about cases she was interested in, adding: “I really don’t like bad guys.”

As a result, Pauley went on to study criminal science, sociology and psychology at Valdosta State University in Valdosta, Georgia. Having grown up with “almost no movies or TV,” acting was never a priority for Pauley. Recalling how she entered the industry, she explained: “I started my master’s degree in criminal science, but then I moved to New York and I was broke and bartending.”

“When I was bartending I started working with this director that put me in 15 back to back … everything from commercials, music videos to short films. Then, suddenly I was in this business,” she explained.

Among her earliest credits include the TV shows Murder One (1996), Frasier (1996), That’s Life (1998), Time of Your Life (1999-2000) and Dawson’s Creek (2001), before landing her big break in 2003.

NCIS stardom

Pauley became a household name in 2003 after appearing as forensic scientist Abby Sciuto in NCIS — a role she held for the next 16 years. During her stint on the show, she also went on to receive three People’s Choice Award nominations for her portrayal.

Speaking about the character’s conception in 2007, Pauley shared: “[NCIS creator] Don Bellisario told me that when he created Magnum, P.I. he wanted to introduce a Vietnam vet who defied the negative stereotype.”

“So with Abby, he wanted to take an alternative-style person with tattoos and make her someone who is happy, totally put together and successful. All the script said about her was: black hair, caffeinated and smart,” She added.

Asked about the character’s signature style, Pauley also shared: “She’s completely unaware that anybody thinks she looks weird. She thinks she looks pretty and never calls herself anything other than happy. And I fight for that.”

A cultural phenomenon, Pauley’s portrayal has also encouraged fans to pursue math and science. “Over the course of 15 years, it started very early, [girls] have modeled themselves after this TV character. It made math and science not only a viable plan for them, but it made it accessible and it made it fun and it inspired these girls,” she raved to PEOPLE in 2018.

“It’s been so heartwarming, and it’s been such a real thing. These are real people, who now 16 years later have gotten their degrees in science and math all because of Abby,” she emphasized.

Mark Harmon feud and quitting NCIS

Pauley’s decision to exit NCIS in 2018 came as something of a shock to fans; she confirmed the news on Twitter (now X).

“It is true that I am leaving NCIS after this season,” she wrote at the time. “It was a decision made last year. I hope everyone will love and enjoy EVERYTHING ABBY not only for the rest of this season, but for everything she has given all of us for 16 years. All the love, all the laughter, all the inspiration. I love her as much as you do.”

After waving goodbye to Abby in the season 15 finale, reports quickly emerged of a feud between Pauley and her co-star, Mark Harmon, which executive producer Charles Floyd Johnson has since addressed. Recalling an on-set incident which had sparked tension, he told The Hollywood Reporter: “In Pauley Perrette’s case, there was an incident with the show with a dog.”

“The dog was [Mark] Harmon’s, and apparently the dog bit someone. Pauley was a huge, huge SPCA [Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals] animal person. And then the dog kept coming with Harmon, and she felt it wasn’t safe for the show. By the end of that year, she just felt like it wasn’t working for her anymore, and it was time to move on,” he further shared.

Mark has since also left NCIS, but remains as an executive proucer. In October 2021, the actor ended his 18-year run as the CBS drama’s lead, with his character, Special Agent Gibbs, deciding to retire from law enforcement. He has never spoken out about his alleged feud with Pauley.

Romantic relationships

While Pauley prefers to keep her relationships out of the spotlight, the actress has previously spoken about her four-year marriage to Canadian-American singer, Coyote Shivers. The former couple, who tied the knot in 2000, separated by 2004, with Pauley obtaining a restraining order against her ex.

In the past, Pauley has referred to Coyote as a compulsive liar who cannot be trusted, and she also accused him of stalking her. Their divorce was finalized in 2006.

Following the split, Pauley has been engaged twice. From 2005 to 2009, she dated cameraman Michael Bosman. While they never legally wed — Pauley revealed the couple would not tie the knot until California’s Proposition 8, which banned same-sex marriage, was abolished — they did exchange vows in front of family and friends. “We just kind of wanted it to be about an ideology of everybody and of generosity and community,” she told Entertainment Tonight.

The couple eventually split in 2008, and Pauley went on to date former British Royal Marine Thomas Arklie, to whom she announced her engagement in 2011. By 2019 it was revealed that the former couple had called time on their relationship.

Health woes

In 2021, Pauley suffered a “massive stroke,” which she realized after experiencing complete numbness along one side of her body. In a 2022  interview with Entertainment Tonight, she recalled the terrifying experience. “I woke up and had no feeling on the entire right side of my body,” she began. “At first I thought I had just slept funny.”

“When I kept realizing the extent of the numbness; couldn’t feel my finger touching my face, couldn’t feel my face being touched by my finger, couldn’t feel my laptop sitting on my lap, no feeling at all on the right hand side — I could have burned myself or cut my finger off and wouldn’t have known. I called my doctor and he said, ‘Go to the emergency room immediately,'” she continued.

Initially, Pauley, who was just 52 at the time, had been hesitant to go to the hospital, and hoped to speak with her therapist — who is also a neurologist — about her first symptom. But, after her doctor warned her of the consequences of leaving it too long, she was persuaded to go.

“[I] walked into the ER and said, ‘Hey, I can’t feel the right hand side of my body and…’ BAM! OMG! I was on a gurney with a million things stuck in my arms and a bunch of medical people rushing me somewhere,” she explained. “They know how serious a stroke is and how immediate care is imperative.”

While Pauley was able to recover from the stroke, she decided to keep her health struggles private. It wasn’t until a year later that she shared her story on Twitter. “It’s 9/2. One year ago I had a massive stroke,” she penned on what is now X. “Before that I lost so many beloved family and friends. And daddy. And then Cousin Wayne. Yet still a survivor after this traumatic life I’ve been given so far. And still so grateful. Still so full of faith. And STILL HERE!”

During her chat with Entertainment Tonight, Pauley added that she wants “people to get educated about all signs of a stroke, especially that you can have one at any age! By knowing signs of a stroke, we can save ourselves and others.”

Retirement from acting

Pauley waved goodbye to acting in October 2020;  two years after her departure from NCIS, the TV legend revealed that she’d officially retired on social media.

Confirming the news on Twitter, she declared: “I finally and happily retired! And this is what I was looking forward to!!! My rules in life now are ‘If my #rescuedogs don’t care, it’s cool!’ I only answer to God and animals and plants now. WOOT!!!”

Pauley’s surprising decision came five months after her sitcom, Broke, which ran for one season, was canceled by CBS. Her stint on the show had been a healing one however, with her previously stating that it had “restored my faith in people, in this industry.”

Following her retirement, Pauley continues to reside in Los Angeles and has turned her attention towards activism and philanthropy. She’s also taken a step behind the camera, and directed the 2023 documentary, Red Ribbons of Love.